Enjoy...Life...Back to the simple way!!

The weekend is winding down, and I have to say it was a great one... In this hectic time, I feel very privileged to have my family and my friends to enjoy absolute quality time. The company of great people reaffirms that we will all get through these tough times. If anyone out there stumbles on this blog, and you are thinking... you know life really sucks because, maybe you don't have that house you lived in last year, or your not making what you used too.... remember the things that are important and put those back to "first" in your life!!.. Friends and Family...and Of Course, your relationship with God... At least the healthy relationships, you need to hold on to and hold on tight. I love the people that I am surrounded by and I love the fact that I know what is important to me, is also important to them. Houses will come and go, Our cars will change... But good Friends and families, and our healthy relationships never need to change if we always keep them as first!! My firsts in my life " I hope you know, I love and appreciate all the time I get with you!" I know I am a very blessed women!!

Remembering the Pain...

I found myself thinking tonight about people, specific people that I "Wrote Out Of My Life" 9 months or so ago. Feeling soft, like maybe it's better to be the good person and forgive and forget... now if your reading this the good in most people would agree that that would be best... but is it?? If these people have been toxic to you and you have tolerated it for years before you said, enough is enough... And if not only yourself, but your kids were being hurt by these people... should you ever really get soft and forgive and forget?? Well I am the type of person that always has... Problem is the cycle always comes completely back around and once again, myself and my family is hurt... Well the beauty of it this time, which helps keep me strong is they lashed out towards my family in vicious Emails, And Of course I printed them. When I am feeling weak like I was today, It just takes reading that vicious email to remind me the hurt they have caused. The lesson here is for centuries, we have forgiven people, not because they deserved it, just because we forget about the pain they cause. Toxic People that is... but in Today's world, Toxic people don't just lash out verbally, they do it in Email, on Social Media Sites, Text messages... This type of communication can become a permanent record, permanent reminder of the Terrible person they really are... So think Twice in Anger, Do I really mean what I am about to Type, or Text, Spoken Words are easily forgotten... Printed or typed words are rarely forgotten! I need to remember what is improtant, and that is to protect my fanily, and do whats best for me and my kids... I pray each and everyday that the damage I allowed them to do to my oldest child, that someday he will forgive me... Goodnight all! Sleep tight... and God Bless!

Mother's Day..

Today was a beautiful day, filled with relaxation and the sense if appreciation for what I do, shown to me all day by my wonderful husband. I am not the type to nap, not out of necessity, just because I always have something to do. My day was filled with relaxation and napping... The best Mothers Day gift one could have. My daughter napped and was lazy with me all day.. My youngest, well he went about his normal free time play... I am truly blessed... I Hope all mothers out there today were able to find some moment of relaxation, because it will probably be next year before many of us see this again!! Tomorrow brings a new week, and many tasks already in the works to gear up for a very busy week.. God Bless!!

Days To Weeks to Months...Time Flies...

Do you ever just stop everything without really thinking.. and then look around and wonder.. Why is everything going so fast?? As I get older and older, my kids are getting older and older...I really don't mind that I am getting older... but I hate the fact that they are getting older... My daughter is almost 14 1/2 as she puts it... I have a picture of her at about 3 on my desk, another one of her at 5 and her brother at 3 1/2 and I look at them now and it's mind boggling how fast time has really gone by... I sat down on the couch tonight and told her I needed a hug, that I missed how she used to sit on my lap and hug all over me... Being the sweetie that she is, she came and sat on my lap, all 5ft. 9in. of her, and I loved every minute of it. My baby will be a teenager next month.. So scary for me that he is the baby and he will soon be a teen... He will always be my baby!! My oldest will be 27 this year... he has grumbled may times that his brother and sister are spoiled, they get more name brand clothes, my income later in life has made it more affording for trips and vacations where he didn't see those things, but as I look back I remember so much that he had that my younger kids never got from me...I was home nearly every day of my sons young life...I worked but a normal work week... My career now is the work week of two people most of the time. Don't get me wrong, My kids always had a parent, we were fortunate that schedules of my husband and I were worked to where Daycare was not needed, but I know I have missed out on a lot. And there is Aarika, My beautiful step daughter, whom her and I have so much in common it's scary.. I truly believe that people are put people's life by God for a reason... I know that in my heart I have saved her from the heart ache and pain I had to go through as an adult...We are so blessed to have her back in our family...

Somewhere along the way I forgot about the things that I loved to do... Like write, just to write... It is such a feeling of expression.. I used to write poetry, short stories..and I think they were good...It's been along time. For Valentines Day this year I asked for a Nook, ( Barnes and Noble E-Book) I did get it and read right through a great book in the first week... I started a great second Novel... and I am still working on that... Finding that much needed hour a day to cleanse the mind with a good Novel is hard, but I am working on that... As I feel it is important... If you are not a reader I challenge you to become one...it really is therapy for your soul...

I am working on each day to reflect on the value of the day and to really appreciate all that I have... My children are my greatest accomplishment.. I love them so much... All of them...

It is your Choice...

In today's world of Communication Technology...It is so easy to be rude to the person you are communicating with, I wonder sometimes if these people whom are so rude if they realize "How Rude they Are?" I have made the decision to refuse to verbally communicate to Rude People.. So If I say, This conversation is over because I don't choose to participate in such a Rude and Negative communication and terminate the Phone call after communicating that, This Does not mean I hung up on you, It simply means I choose not to participate in your Rudeness, so think about how you are talking to people and Find that place in your communication skills when you once could communicate politely and positively and let's get back to a Positive communication environment!!

Reaching For Your Power....

A Month or so ago I found myself in a very scary situation... One that could have ended very poorly to say the least. I was going about my "What has become a normal routine day" As a Real Estate Broker working in todays market, (that Routine Day has Changed drastically over the past few years....) I went to a Foreclosed home in "The Heart of Oakland" ( meaning if you are in this area, your heart is beating very hard and fast) when I was chased from a foreclosed home to my car.. I surprised myself as I really didn't know I could run that fast, but GOD was with me that day... If they would have caught me I shutter to think what could have happened. They proceded to beat on my car as I started it and got out of there... I was there to photograph a foreclosed home. Was bothering no one, but what they yelled at me as I ran, it was clear they did not want me taking picks in there "Neighborhood", of course they had a differant refferance to the Neighborhood, but I will stay politically correct.. I was very shaken to say the least, it was nearly 5 pm so I had a good commute ahead of me to make it back to my home town of Modesto... This gave me plenty of time to just think... And my thoughts simply took me to one question. Am I really Reaching for my true Power...? Is this all the better I can do?? The industry has taken Educated professionals and put their worth at just $65.00. I could lost my life, or at least life as I knew it over a $65.00 check... I knew right then that I needed to change the direction I was going... Real Estate is my passion... I love helping my clients sell or buy Real Estate.. I even love being able to counsel them through a Short Sale knowing I just helped them through what will probably be one of the worst times of there life... and somehow I made it easier... but to feel like a slave to these banks that have lowered our value so low, and put us at risk for little reward, I knew I could not continue to do this... I realized right then during that drive home, that I Needed to Reach Higher, I needed to gain My power Back, the power to "Feel in Control of my life", The power to know that have a choice and I can say no...That job today is not worth what your offering...Just because they assign it doesn't mean I have to do it.

I started thinking about all the opportunities that have past before me and that my intensity towards this ever changing market kept me from taking the time to see things.... I started realizing the things I wanted to explore and work on along side Real Estate... I realized that getting up didn't didn't have to feel like a cumbersome task. I have alwys been very self diciplined so no matter the mood, how I fealt I was the one whom always got there, and on time. I had developed a sort of numbness to get through this daily routine... FORECLOSURE>>> FORECLOSURE>>>More FORECLOSURES!!! Bank Asset managers that have no sense of caring, they have a bad day with one REO agent, we all get the E-Mail that so rudely attacks all of us, even if the incident pertains to none of us... I am so grateful for the work, but negativity, day in and day out can wear on you a bit... But I am still thinking about " There is got to be something out there that can help me "Reach For My Power".

I started once again my daily chats with GOD... Things had gotten really routine, but the one thing that was missing was my daily chats with GOD... I was still chatting, but those chats had dwindled to weekly at best... I felt a sense of calm as My mind he told me," you will find the avenue that you can add to your Real Estate Business... Take the opportunity slowly and it will come..." A few days later through a persistent friend of mine, that had heard my ranting of needing more in my life, called another friend and set up a lunch.. She brought to that Lunch the Opportunity of ACN...We talked for over a hour, she is a incredible women and I left that meeting thinking, can this be what I need. A powerful company to sink my heart and soul in, a business that goes side by side with my Real Estate Business... It felt right, It felt good... I felt a sense of excitement come over, and that felt good... SO I signed up, I am now a Real Estate Broker and A Independent Representative for ACN... I am building a team, and the best part is I am so excited about where this can take us...

Reaching for Your Power isn't just about "What kind of Money Can You Make in A lifetime", It is also about, " What Kind Of Person Do you Want to become over the Span of Your Lifetime? What Kind of Impact can you make in a child's life today? What kind of impression will you make as you walk passed a person you have never seen before, or whom you may never see again... Do you ever think about that everything you do Today, Can directly impact your life later... I think about these things every day now...This is why I have started my Blog, I want to be made responsible for my actions by writing down, the good and the bad of how I accomplished, During each Day, To Reach For My Power... I challenge you to think about this; " What can I do today that will impact my future? ; even as soon as Tomorrow..."

Please feel free to comment about your day and how your actions could influence you "Reaching For Your Power!"